Relationships
How to save your relationship
Can I save my relationship? a question most often asked about relationships. How do I know he is my true soulmate? also comes high on the list of popular questions. Such questions need careful analysis of your individual situation, rather than a simple statement of all the possibilities.
Compatibility is is how we look at a relationship to discover how the two sides interact, how each sees the other, how the two get on together. Astrologers have devised a system of analyzing the birth charts of two or more people to do just this. It is known as Synastry.
Sun Sign Compatibility
A popular and easy way to compare yourself with another to see if you are compatible is to compare your Sun signs, for example;
If you are born under the sign of Aries your soulmate is one who seems as though he will gain success in life. Dominant; the strong quiet one, and love is deep and impulsive, or sometimes comes after a rejection. Loss turned to victory. He is not always the first love or first choice. Your spirit dislikes being dependent or totally reliant on another. You are ambitious, and the soul mate you will desire, may be a man of substance. One who allows you to stand tall. Aries females often want to marry a man of higher position than their friends or sisters have married. Someone to raise you up when you need to hold your head high in life and win. Aries man, is masculine, and needs a feminine sort who is submissive and trusting, who will make him feel strong.
And for Taurus, the slow and gradual realization that someone matters to you ever more deeply, the dawning of love, is how you will recognize your predestined partner. Your soulmate will offer security and commitment. You will be expected to accept his traditions, ways and family values. Vows that are never broken. Your soulmate will be the steady faithful type. But may also be possessive. Your soulmate is someone reliable who will always be there for you. Read more Sun Signs Soulmates here.
This is of course simply a general view, and cannot be of much value in evaluating your own relationship. For an accurate assessment you will need the help of a professional experienced astrologer who will make a thorough examination of the birth charts of you and your partner. Then based on the aspects of signs, planets and the houses of each a full synthesis is drawn up to highlight any possible areas of concern. This is how Synastry works.
Aspects of Synastry
To illustrate this let’s consider the planets and how they can influence a relationship; Venus conjunctions and oppositions in a synastry between two people’s charts can be suspect. As can Pluto Moon and Neptune aspects. Neptune, the planet of illusion, is also often involved with love planets, like Venus, showing the illusion of love. Neptune in the seventh house sometimes shows the person has the potential for illusion or self deception. This is stronger still if the ruling planet of the ascendant is in conjunction with Neptune, because Neptune can bring illusions, the ascendant being the self, and the ruler with Neptune the tendency to delude oneself. In the seventh house the self deception is about the lover, marriage or relationships. Though as always it depends on the rest of the chart. There are complex patterns in advanced astrology but the above are just a few clues in how astrology works it’s magic by looking carefully at each planet and house aspects.
The Elements
The elements can also show where the relationship may be heading. The elements in the chart are Earth, Air, Fire and Water, and correspond to elements within our own character. In the relationship the signs and elements on the seventh house, and in the house which holds Venus, or the seventh ruler can be revealing. Let’s explore this further.
Water signs symbolize the completion of things or the things that need to be completed in the relationship, old unfinished past life Karma. Missing elements of life, things needed for Self awareness, spiritual aspects of a relationship and so on. So, if you have Venus in a water sign, you may have to work on the love, the emotion and a missing spiritual side of the relationship. If a water sign is on the seventh there may be incomplete karma, and so on.
The Earth sign; the material aspects, background and environment of the relationship.
The Air signs are the attachments and bonds made in the relationship.
The fire signs, are the “action” in the relationship, what it will achieve, what new interest and projects it may bring, the relationship’s potential.
The Signs of the Zodiac
How to read the signs round your Natal chart. Aries is the beginning of the zodiac, and symbolizes new interests and new karma you and your soulmate will begin together.
The house on which Aries and its ruler, Mars, falls in your chart gives an indication of the type of new directions. If for example Mars is in an Air sign, you will generate many new and interesting ideas together, your original thinking together will create a stir, and if Aries is in the sixth house this new way of looking at things will be applied to your health or to your working life. You may influence the way he looks after his health or thinks about fitness. He may inspire you with new thoughts about your approach to your working life, or visa versa, but together these will be the areas of the future that you’ll build new beginnings on, and be ambitious about. If the Aries house in your chart is not particularly significant or connected by aspects, or planets in it, then this influence will still be correct but it will be a less important background part of the relationship than say if a planet in your seventh house. aspected the cusp of the Aries house, or if Venus was in Aries. If the Aries house was not strengthened by these things, then the new directions and idea in health and work would only be a small part of the relationship, where if it was strongly reinforced by planets and aspects, it would be a dominant or major part in your future together.
How to read the Signs
All the signs can be read in a similar way,
TAURUS, The way you will Protect and. Preserve, or make secure the love.. All that keeps and strengthens in the relationship.
GEMINI, The similarities between you and the soulmate within the relationship. Unity
CANCER, the family and social circle you will make. The things that need to be developed, nurtured or matured..
LEO, what the relationship creates or produces . Art, Children, creativity. What you will show off to the world about.
VIRGO, what remains as it was before the marriage or relationship. Analysis and discrimination.
LIBRA, the ability to cooperate with the soulmate. To work together for the common good of the relationship
SCORPIO, things hidden submerged or obscured in the relationship.
SAGITTARIUS, things that need to be increased.
CAPRICORN, limitations that the relationship must endure or overcome. The things that will improve with time.
AQUARIUS, mutual intellectual attunes and interests, the motives that are common to both you and the soulmate Progressiveness and future, the way you and the soulmate will be independent from your peers.
PISCES, things emotionally, physically spiritually that must be left behind, if the relationship is to survive and move forwards. Rebirth, future karma.
The Ascendant
If you are not sure exactly how to read your birth chart seek out StargazyManor.com for an easy, pizza sized tutorial. You can learn a lot from basic chart reading, again let’s show what you can look for. The Ascendant is the first house of your chart, at 9 o’clock, the descendant being at 3 o’clock, the cusp of the seventh house. When your ascendant conjuncts his descendant or visa versa, it means he is your altar ego, and you are his, the mirror of each other’s soul. This is a common aspect in the attraction of opposites. Depending on what else is in the charts, it is a compelling aspect, but can mean a complicated relationship. You each have something teach to the other, about the balance between love and self, or mine and yours, sharing and selfishness, love and hate.
Soulmates
Will I marry this person? A difficult yet often asked question when asked to prepare a Synastry. In constructing the synastry we assume there is some existing connection, and a practical realistic link between you. That you know the person. That they area close friend or partner, a past or present lover. If you soulmate chart describe the man, then it is more certain. But it is always very difficult to say for certain if two people will marry from examining their charts. It is only really the strong possibility of marriage that we can determine. Because even if every marriage aspect known to astrology is visible, and it appears in cross aspects between the charts linking them, there are millions of people in the world who’s charts may also have similar aspects and links to yours, should you happen to meet up. Keeping this in mind, and knowing the way astrology works can help avert self induced disappointment.
Finding the Answers
As you can see Synastry can reveal much about your relationship but it is highly complex and requires the involvement of an experienced astrologer with a history of relationship work. For your own personal analysis of compatibility Ivarna comes highly recommended, for more than twenty five years Ivarna has been given her unique and individual style of guidance in relationships to over 14,000 clients world wide, with abundant testimonials to her work in this very specialist field of analysis.
Please contact Ivarna direct and ask about Synastry Readings, with birth data of yourself and the other person, explain your worries, and the questions you’d like answered about the person or the relationship and I guarantee you will receive the personal attention of one of the best, if not the foremost, consulting relationship astrologer in the world today. A brief Compatibility chart analysis may be all you need to a clear understanding of your concerns, why it may be happening and how to deal with it. If the troubles are complex a full synastry will give a complete, deep analysis leading to an in-depth assessment of your relationship and why it is causing the difficulties you describe, with answers to how you and your partner may resolve these issues and start to enjoy a happy, loving and lasting partnership.
We have seen how astrology can reveal a great deal about people and their relationships. How the key to a successful partnership is a fine balance between love and hate. Not all relationships have to led to marriage, or have taken conventional patterns. Each deep relationship is different, unique, and has its own poetry and own pain and something to enhance our life. It is a rich experience in itself. If you can accept a relationship that way, whether it continues, whether it is difficult or easy, then this enchantment will only enhance your life and give you something precious, whatever the final outcome the relationship is a gift as rare and sacred and is to be treasured.